使生活更美好的小秘訣，一定要養成！哈佛大學證實：20個讓快樂靠近的小習慣，不知不覺就幸福起來了！
1.學會感恩
試著在忙碌的生活裡，找時間停下腳步看看四周，學會欣賞生活中的美麗，當你內心覺得滿足時，自然就會充滿幸福感。
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner’s eyes…
When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify, wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.
2.選擇自己想要的朋友
根據研究指出，人際關係會影響人對幸福的感覺，如果朋友相處時，是輕鬆自在、願意分享彼此心事的話，那生活將會更豐富、更快樂。
According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.
3.培養對事物的同情心
我們不應該只站在自己的角度看事情，換一個角度看問題，說不定就會知道為什麼他會這樣做，同時也可以幫助衝突減少。
When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.
4.不停止的學習
活到老學到老，在不同的年紀可以去學習不同的新事物，這可以幫助我們保持年輕、更有活力。
Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our pains and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.
5.學會解決問題
不要害怕遇到問題，當你在解決問題的過程，也許困難艱辛，但解決問題後，會發現你變得更正面、變得更勇敢了！
Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state.
Instead, they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to and whatever challenges life throws your way.
6.做你想做的事情
如果你的人生只有工作、工作、還是工作的話，那對幸福是會有很大影響的，無論再怎麼忙碌，抽出一些時間做你想做的事情吧！
Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.
7.活在當下
不要老是活在過去痛苦的回憶裡，那只會讓你變得更老、更憂鬱，唯有活在當下才是最真實的，去享受那幸福的感覺吧。
When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you’re living in the present.
8.經常笑
生活不要太嚴肅，學會幽默和輕鬆地看待事物，會讓你變得有人緣、更快樂，同時嘴巴上揚也可以增加你的幸福感。
Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.
9.學會原諒
過去就讓它過去吧！當你在贈恨和生氣時，對方也不會知道你的痛苦，不如原諒對方、原諒自己，去學會如何讓自己成為更強大的人。
Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re actually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes.
It’s through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.
10.經常將謝謝掛嘴邊
去欣賞生活中那些對你友好的人，表達出你對他的欣賞之情。將自己的感謝表達出來，即使是一些微不足道的事情。
Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way, big or small.
11.學會深交
學習專注聆聽對方說話，並理解、交流，將兩人的想法吸收後，也許幸福感就會帶給自己和別人。
Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and pinging happiness to ourselves, and to others.
12.學會信守承諾
根據研究指出，高度的自尊和幸福感有直接的關連，所以必須遵守自己對別人的承諾。
Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself.
13.冥想
根據哈佛研究，上過8次冥想訓練的人，比控制狂多開心20%。冥想對學習和記憶很重要，更能同時讓自己反省。
According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training can lead to structural pain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
14.訓練自己的關注力
當人在認真投入一件事情的時候，會處於開心狀態，不管別人怎麼看，至少這段時間是屬於自己的快樂時光。
When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!
15.學會樂觀
如果你在面對一件事情前，心態是傾向負面的結果，那將無法感受到幸福，必須轉換心態，告訴自己能從中學到東西，樂觀肯定能驅使成功的。
For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.
16.學會付出
當你在面對朋友、家人、伴侶或是陌生人時，都希望對方給你最好，那不如先從自己做起吧！願意無條件的付出，才能得到相同回報。
No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.
17.不要輕易放棄
做任何事情都應該有始有終，沒有做完的話，你怎麼知道會不會成功呢？只有你在放棄的時候，才是真正失敗了。
Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.
18.努力後學會放手
盡力去做好一件事，讓自己感到滿足，然後放手，儘管結果和你想像不同，那也不會遺憾。
Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have no regrets.
19.照顧好自己
健康是幸福的關鍵！如果你沒有一個健康的身體和心理，那無論你再怎麼努力，都沒辦法感受真正的快樂。
A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.
20.懂得給予
生活中，我們不知覺地從給予獲得滿足， 如果一個人不懂得給予、不懂得分享，整天只想著自己的利益，那麼這個人每天就好像活在地獄裡。
Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their pains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.
好習慣是一把開啟成功的鑰匙，而壞習慣則是一扇通向失敗的門。快樂是每個人一生追求的目標，人活著就應該快快樂樂，而快樂的生活源於快樂的習慣。其實通往幸福的門很簡單，只是我們都太容易因為過多的渴望而忘了起初單純的美好，希望在接下來的人生，我們都能選擇真正對我們有益的！
